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Commitment.

It's been long since I updated something. Can't say I am not inspired even once, blogger is just.. complicated.

Well I have been reading and I came across a book called SWAY by Ori and Rom Brafman. Have you readers ever realised that we humans are all swayed by commitment. Most of the times, commitment are used on workers towards their work and students towards assignments. There are more examples other than from those range of people.

So where can we see commitments? Relationships are where most people get swayed by commitments. You noticed how people get into bad relationships, and did not break up? That's one of them. I came over one case few days ago. I seen him post Plurk status a few times about how his girlfriend is ignoring him, how she give him those cold-war-kinda-replies, he was and still might be sad. Many boy, guys, men would say: "fix it or break up." and the reason why he didn't because he said he took a long time to get her. He put in a lot of commitment and did not want to let his commitment go to waste although it seem to be hopeless. There are still more examples like this, so etc. etc. etc. etc.

Have you ever had a toy that you played when you're a kindergarten kid and it's still in your room when you're high school going on college? or maybe even when you're IN college. That's another kind of commitment. The commitment comes when you start thinking, "Hey, I played this, let me keep this as a memory." Then it starts sitting in your bed, to the corner of the room. When you see it, you'll think, "Oh my toy, now where's my computer." Throwing it away never cross your mind, but your toy just sits there collecting dust and is just plain trash. You want to keep it but you don't need it. That's part me, but it all goes away quite easily for me, and I have a new bookshelf!

For me, knowing this not only helped me give up things that I don't need more easily, but also let me understand what are the factors that will influence us on our decisions. The book is not bad. Not thick. Definitely a good book to get.

-Sebastian
What it says.


Santa claus

..so as I was thinking, since Santa had been around for decades already, he doesn't get any older. Always that tough old man with big white beard and hair, that rides sleigh guided by reindeer to give presents down chimneys. After all these years, why doesn't he get sick on 25th of December? and most importantly, why can't he die? Must be the biggest news ever if he died, even bigger than MJ's.

In a year, 365 days, Santa Claus spent 364 days making presents with a bunch of elfs, short elfs, not Legolas elfs. That is from 26th of December to 24th December. Not just that, living so isolated in the North Pole where everyone can't find him, why is he being so damn emo? and I thought he would be a fun guy. Using a single day to deliver gifts all over the world, to each and every house? He's got a tough job. But it gets easier as houses nowadays doesn't have chimneys; no wonder I didn't get my present.

If you think in another way, Santa Claus might not be that emo after all. Having so many countries around the world, The Santa Community may have a lot of Santas assigned to specific countries. Logically, no one can fly the whole world checking through every houses in a day. If so, we may have African Santa, Muslim Santa, Jewish Santa rather than just American, or English, or whatever the origin is. Now that's when Santa have company, they can talk, share experience and sort. Wait, Native Africans have no brick houses, chimneys? Singaporean Santa will be the most lucky one, such a small country to cover.

With different ethics in the Santa Co., it must be tough. Muslims can't eat pork, presents must be halal, they must really have sections of creating presents. Jewish, wonder how the cope with others there. Do black Santa break dance? Not just these, with so many Santas, I can't really imagine the number of elfs needed. Must be outrageous. If so, the company must be really really big. Wonder how people never such a company in the North Pole?

Notice the attire? Do Santa have different clothing in its wardrobe too? Not that they have anywhere to go to, maybe to hunt some polar bear meat. Polar bear meat can really make someone fat, and I mean really fat. Oh right, no wonder Polar bears are going extinct already, poor thing.

This is my first lame post on this site, suddenly feel the urge to write it. I don't see that it is not a fact. Haha.

-Sebastian
Friends


Negative pawns positive.

Ever wonder why when A tells B that YOU did something that you would deny to, B believes it; whereas when A tells B about YOU that would agree to, B would not believe it?

Confusing? Let me show you some examples.
1. A: C farted.
B: Shit what the hell?
C: No I didn't!
B: Yes you did.

2. A hits C
C: Who did that?
A: B did.
B: No A did.
C: Screw you B.

Something like that. People tends to believe things that are negative to the third party and not the positive one. Why? Because it's more easier to be negative than positive; let's just leave out criminal acts for now.

It always works during gossiping. If you go to someone and said something like, "Hey! I said something bad about you." They will be unlikely to believe that unless there are at least 2 people gossiping about the third party. People believe that humans don't admit to their wrong doings directly. That's why even if you admit to a crime, polices still investigate. No robber will turn up and say, "Hey it was me who robbed the bank yesterday."

To make it more to-life, A tells B that C like D. C denies but B continues to believe that C like D. It's just a psychological effect that people believe every shit you deny to. Interrogation is to see who denies best, who gives the best innocent look and who the interrogator choose to believe. That's why even if the suspect denies to the crime they did, they are still kept suspects.

I love the movie "the Invention of Lying" where people doesn't lie and denies only to the prosecution that are truly wrong. Damn where is this post getting to..

Well it's life. :)

-Sebastian
Why afraid of Death?

This occurred to me when I was driving home from work. I suddenly thought of movies and series and stuffs, and this thought came to me. Why are people afraid of dying?

You know when you're watching a movie and somehow one guy got caught of something by some bad guys, and were threaten to do something or give something, they would say:"Please don't kill me" and cries. They were afraid, and always afraid. It seems like the know what is coming at them, like what it will be like when they die.

From what I know, no one taught us what it feels like when we die. No matter how long you live or how short it is, you still die. Death comes anytime, anywhere. The only side effect of dying is that your loved ones and friends will cry and be in grief, although not all, but still will be a very sad thing. In spite of that, those who really deserve to die, they too beg for mercy. Do they have anyone to cry for them? If not, why don't they just die?

So I also thought of why people will be afraid to die. Maybe they can imagine the pain from being stabbed at or shot or strangled? Feels weird if you haven't even tried it. That makes actor even more successful, cause they just plunged the idea into our mind. I'm not saying everyone doesn't know. People like those who already had a taste of those above, or even resurrected individuals, that's a different story.

Did anyone watched Cirque du Freak: The Vampire's Assistant? Darren Shan felt nothing when he died. When he woke up, he didn't even feel death. So why is it so fearful that people will risk dying to give out top secrets? Well those are mostly in movies, but still, why not?

-Sebastian
Hyprocrites

Living in this world, encountering with hypocrites are not uncommon. These people pretends to be something else, when they have or even voiced their opinion out. They are everywhere, it might be me, them or you.

Example of hypocrites, with the most popular one is opinions and discrimination before Micheal Jackson's death, and the praises and comfort after his death. Before it, they call him a pedophile, fag and even worse. Not to say that I like them, but I have no comments to them. What happens just a few hours after his death? The whole world came out and cry to his sorrow and the lost of a king.

It's feel like suddenly then whole world changes perspective. Trying to join the crowd, blend into them. I'm not saying 100% of those who had been discriminating him changed, but mostly yes. Even the broadcasting news change titles directly, while the previous time was all "molesting children and co."

These people should stay home and feed your cat!

Despite all that, being hypocritical isn't always a bad thing. It helps you make peace with your surroundings, but only depending to the situation. IF a statement you're giving, isn't correct and you stupidly argued for being correct, then you should try and be a little hypocritical and agree with some other people. I'm not sure if it is considered being a hypocrite, but I think you'll get the idea.

Sorry for using Micheal Jackson in this statement, cause I kind of lost my other example.


-Sebastian

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