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Thursday, October 28, 2010
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FriendsFriends, such beautiful word and you get the warm fuzzy feeling when you hear them. Sometimes, you don't.What are friends to you? Are they someone who be with you because they like you, or are they someone who just be with you because they have no where to go for the time being? Are they your friends because of you, or are they because you created fun and not boredom?
Now I will only talk about the wars created by FRIENDS.
Recently there are also some situations that made me think. You know, usually when people break up from a relationship because of an argument or such, you can start seeing how friends support them.
Facebook have so many fun things to see. You can see from one side, the sad one posted a status saying the other part had hurt them and such. Then the comments are all the same, well mostly. Some comfort, which is good i reckon, and most would support them by saying how bad the other one must be! How they would help their friend criticize the other, making their friends seem like the one who is the correct one.
Now go to the other side of the story, or profile in this context. No surprise you'll see the same thing. Again supporting them against the other side, in not a good way, assuming they must be supporting the right person.
Done that, now another example.
I know someone who now seems to have no other place to turn to. Disliked by all the people but still they stick to you, because they know deep down they really have no choice. Either you keep quiet, or quit. They sometimes act like being a stuck up because they wanted to feel admired and wow-ed to, but they just don't feel that no one cared. To make it even worse, knowing you're being ignored and distanced, you still come back again and again.
I don't doubt that he have friends outside. It's fine with me that you have friends, but sorry, not with me. People often think why he would even have friends. Well I really don't doubt him. People can have friends who likes them, and situations when you don't have even one. It is not really a big deal, and I don't really care. The only thing I feel not right is when you complain everything in public, and having the public friends criticizing the other side, and the other side shouting back.
Such endless wars made and expanded by non-other than your friends - referred to both sides. It is all so meaningless.
Now are these the friends who really wanted to help you, or are they just passing by and joining the fun? Why would they even want to help you, when they don't even know, or just knew a one-sided story?
To me, a true friend does not pass judgment on who, what and how because they only hear the story that came from you. They understands what is really going on in your problem before telling you what is good and what is bad. Supports you because you say you wanted to do, and not because they say you must do THIS because of THAT. Assumptions, please keep at home.
-Sebastian
Now I will only talk about the wars created by FRIENDS.
Recently there are also some situations that made me think. You know, usually when people break up from a relationship because of an argument or such, you can start seeing how friends support them.
Facebook have so many fun things to see. You can see from one side, the sad one posted a status saying the other part had hurt them and such. Then the comments are all the same, well mostly. Some comfort, which is good i reckon, and most would support them by saying how bad the other one must be! How they would help their friend criticize the other, making their friends seem like the one who is the correct one.
Now go to the other side of the story, or profile in this context. No surprise you'll see the same thing. Again supporting them against the other side, in not a good way, assuming they must be supporting the right person.
Done that, now another example.
I know someone who now seems to have no other place to turn to. Disliked by all the people but still they stick to you, because they know deep down they really have no choice. Either you keep quiet, or quit. They sometimes act like being a stuck up because they wanted to feel admired and wow-ed to, but they just don't feel that no one cared. To make it even worse, knowing you're being ignored and distanced, you still come back again and again.
I don't doubt that he have friends outside. It's fine with me that you have friends, but sorry, not with me. People often think why he would even have friends. Well I really don't doubt him. People can have friends who likes them, and situations when you don't have even one. It is not really a big deal, and I don't really care. The only thing I feel not right is when you complain everything in public, and having the public friends criticizing the other side, and the other side shouting back.
Such endless wars made and expanded by non-other than your friends - referred to both sides. It is all so meaningless.
Now are these the friends who really wanted to help you, or are they just passing by and joining the fun? Why would they even want to help you, when they don't even know, or just knew a one-sided story?
To me, a true friend does not pass judgment on who, what and how because they only hear the story that came from you. They understands what is really going on in your problem before telling you what is good and what is bad. Supports you because you say you wanted to do, and not because they say you must do THIS because of THAT. Assumptions, please keep at home.
-Sebastian
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